If you want.. ASK!

Over the past few weeks, I have been talking nonstop about how long it’s taking me to download a sitcom and how much easier it would be if I could just buy the CDs, to my boyfriend. I even mentioned it to him, that there is a ‘buy 1 get 1 free’ offer at this particular shop, so I could get two seasons for the price of one. The funny part is, even after the innumerable times I must have mentioned this to him, it just somehow never stuck on. This morning we were at the same store shopping for him. Once done with that, he asked me if I wanted to get something. I don’t think my brain must have worked this fast ever, but I swear it came up with at least 1000 things in the next 10 seconds that I could possibly (or maybe never) want. But I smiled and said what any person in my place would say.. “Nothing”. Him: “Are you sure baby?” Me: “Yes.. Absolutely!”. This question was repeated in various forms till he understood nothing else will come out of me.

What I don’t understand is how he could not think about the CD and the sitcom. For heaven’s sake, I have been going on and on about it for days now. I know men have a very short attention span and that their minds close down few seconds into the conversation, unless you are talking about sex or cars (The latter doesn’t work in my guy’s case though) but this is unbelievable. So I started wondering if it is only girls who possess this remarkable ability to pick out and remember stuff like this. I wasn’t sure if I could generalise it to the ladies yet, so I sat down and analyzed few of my close girl friends. My best friend and I were all over town, the whole of last month looking for a watch for my guy. She used to describe our daily activities to her fiancé and during one such conversation, he mentioned that he doesn’t like leather straps and square dials. The next day she told me this and also added “I should keep that in mind”. I know for a fact that even 50 years down the lane, she will never get him a square dial. Another time, he had asked her to remind him to buy a new belt next time he goes out. The next thing I know, we are shopping for belts!!

Well actually to think of it, most of my girl friends are like this. Most, not all! A close friend of mine once told me that her boyfriend has a romantic quotient of a soap dish. This girl is someone who is always looking out for ways to make her guy happy and as for the guy, well, I am not commenting on that. Now I don’t mean to sound like a feminist here, but I am yet to meet a guy who does stuff like this. I mean I have heard guys talk about themselves, how they keep doing this and that for some girl. But for some reason, I haven’t heard it from a girl.

Of course, men are romantic. There are these bouts of romance that blossom every now and then. But a guy who is consistently romantic? I am yet to meet. So there, this is one more among the many super human qualities a girl possesses when she is in love. The others include, but are not limited to an immeasurable capacity to love & understand, empathize and patience, and by patience I mean a lot of it!!

Am I complaining? No, of course not! I love spoiling my boyfriend and in fact, lately I am beginning to think that I am enjoying it more than he does. So the whole point of writing this article? Just pointing out minor differences in the thinking pattern between men and women. And as for getting what I want, I guess I’ll have to just work on my ability to mumble something other than nothing the next time he asks me!